Emotional CompassMy diary

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Humiliation

Family: Threat and vulnerability

How it differs from similar states

Injustice from others; heat and the urge for revenge.

How this can feel in the body

Heat in your face and chest, a feeling of tightness—along with the urge to disappear or fight back.

It usually comes up when

Public belittlement; disrespect from another person.

What this might be pointing to

Signal that your dignity has been violated by someone else; may trigger a desire for revenge.

What you can do with this

Give yourself time before reacting—revenge usually deepens the pain when you're feeling humiliated. Ask yourself: Whose judgment is this, and is it actually true about me?

Where the name comes from

Humiliation is usually social—it tends to arise when another person violates your dignity, though you can also do it to yourself.

Not quite it?

Closest by feel — the same ones the compass would show.

Check yourself with the compass

Two minutes, and you will see whether this is really it